Don’t worry about detaching yourself from things. Don’t worry about liberating yourself. The more you try, the more you’ll feel attached. All that is fruitless. There is a faster way and it works.
Get honest with yourself. Earnestly commit yourself to your honesty. As you get honest, you will learn, you will understand. Understanding will do whatever needs to be done, because when you know better you do better. If your understanding is at level 1, you cannot expect level 10 results.
It’s not about age or formal education either. Understanding depends on only understanding. There are a lot of educated elites who are complete idiots. There are a lot of illiterates who are wise sages.
Knowledge of self will teach you not only about yourself but every other person. Your heart will teach you about other’s hearts. Most importantly, self study will raise you emotionally and vibrationally. Whatever your parenting left behind you can raise.
You won’t need to depend on someone else. Your security will be within you. Where it should be. It won’t change according to your social, financial, or marital status. You will be a steady human being.
That’s real self-confidence. It’s not dependent on how others see you. It’s not even dependent on how you see yourself. It’s not dependent on anything that can change. It is regardless of anything. It’s unwavering because it’s independent of all, even the self.
Beyond the Anxious Mind 