Being Self-full

Walk the path the universe laid out for you. Stay focused. Stay humble. Stay determined. Trust your body. Trust your intuition. Trust your decisions. Trust your intelligence. Respect your own boundaries. Don’t lie to yourself or to anyone else.

These are all the things that I find very hard to do. Yet, everytime I do them, they set me back on track to being my best self to MYSELF.

Our relationship with ourselves is the foundation of all our relationships; how we treat ourselves is how we treat everyone and everything outside of ourselves. More importantly, how we treat ourselves is how we allow others to treat us.

So, the best way to shift our life’s projectile is to make the change at the core of “how” we are with ourselves. Everything else adjusts accordingly.

Why There is No Hustle in Yoga

The difference between a student and a non-student is that a non-student is trying to achieve something and a student is trying to achieve nothing. A student has one understanding: nothing can be achieved. A student knows that there is nothing to be achieved. A student has tried and learned this. She is simply allowing the teachings to be absorbed as they come. There is no hustle about it!

Becoming a Student is a Milestone

Becoming a student is a very important milestone. We aren’t born a student. We have to reach that state and it’s reached naturally. After we’ve tried all our tactics and cleverness and realized that nothing is working. Nothing is working to satisfy that deep deep longing in the heart.

It is after we are burned and burned and burned some more from all our avidya (ignorance of truth) that we reach a point of surrender. We may have cooked (metaphorically) for lifetimes until we are finally done and want the truth and nothing but the truth.

We reach a point when we say, “Money, sex, power, worldly knowledge, fame, respect, etc…nothing is doing it for me. I am not here for all these things, I am here for something else. There’s got to be more to this life.”

This is what makes us willing to drop it all and walk-in empty handed. This is when we are truly ready to receive that which CANNOT BE ACHIEVED.

So, first, we enter each day to become a student. Once we’ve fully surrendered to being a student, then the learning begins.

Liberation Demystified

Yoga is all about honesty. To live our yoga is “to be willing to let our false self fall”. It can’t be any other way. Becoming honest is the only way. 

There is only one destination, and there is only one path. The destination and the path are also the same, they are merged into one — if the destination is truth, honesty is the path.

As layers fall, we become vulnerable. We accept our vulnerability to life. We no longer deny the truth. 

Instead of constructing, we begin deconstructing. We begin shedding. We part from our old self — the self we constructed out of our false understandings about life. 

We stop faking it. We stop running after things and people. We are no longer obsessed with our image. We return to our true self. 

We become willing to step into the light and be seen for who we truly are. We choose being honest with ourselves over the approval of others.

We choose being ourselves over being desired.

And, we do this when we’ve reached the absolute limit of the amount of our own bullshit that we can tolerate.

This simple shedding of our old understanding and lies is what we call liberation.

Why Yoga Focuses on Gut, Spine, and Breath

You are not here to build empires or leave legacies. You are here to connect with your body and breath, and then surpass it. You are here to evolve.

Your core is paramount in this process. What is your core? Your “gut” and “spine”. Your heart and brain depend on your core in order to function properly.

When you breathe better, you think better. The clarity of your breath affects the clarity of your brain.

Most of us have gut, spinal, and breathing issues. Most of us don’t know it!

What’s a Woman Like You Doing in a Man’s World?

I think all problems in this world originate from the woman and can be resolved by the woman. They originate from a woman when a woman creates/acts from a place of insecurity. The more she familiarizes herself with her security the less she will create from insecurity. 

The problem is that she is not familiar with her security and has been told that it is “something to be found outside of herself.” The truth is that a woman’s security already exists within her. Plus, the external security isn’t actually security but her insecurity; the more she secures herself with her external security the more insecure she becomes.

Do you ever see someone gaining external validation and becoming more confident? It’s always the other way around. They may appear more confident but they’ve actually become dependent on the external validation. It’s like a bottomless pit of lack— a lack of self-worth. What she actually has to do is disconnect from her external security and connect with her internal security.

Instead, what she tries to do is have one leg in one boat, the second leg in another boat, and each finger in different boats. She will put her faith in herself, but also in rituals, black magic, superstitions, stones, stories, gods, idols, fake gurus, astrologers, matchmakers, psychics, etc. She will run after power, sex, and money, trying to beat a man in his own game. She is the queen but she begins acting like a pauper. This confuses the man, who depends on a woman to show him the way, so he thinks that she is a prostitute to be exploited.

Instead of standing in her truth, she borrows from her “self-trust” fund and scatters it “just in case” the truth doesn’t work. While the truth is something she feels 100% within her bones. By dividing her trust, she indirectly gives herself this message: SHE cannot be trusted. She strengthens her doubt in herself. She wants to make herself more secure but she ends up making herself more insecure, more unstable. Now, if she can’t trust herself, who will?

In this way, she poisons her ability to speak the truth and endure the consequences. She doesn’t trust her ability to endure the consequences. As her trust in herself dwindles so does her self-confidence. The one who was meant to lead the way for others starts doubting herself. The compass starts asking the travelers for direction. 

This is how she weakens her ability to lead the world’s conscience. Then, with her divided, doubtful, insecure conscience she creates. What she creates, then, is a divided, doubtful, and insecure world. She creates chaos in her own life and in others. She begins manipulating and lying to get what she thinks she absolutely “can’t live without.” She becomes desperate to hide the ever gaping, self imagined hole within herself. This is when she will deny red-flags, relentlessly compete with other women, and stay in the shittiest of situations.

But, when a woman connects with her security within, it affects the entire human network, the collective conscience. She questions, learns, and moves forward without fear of what others will think. Her security is within so her equilibrium is within.

She no longer looks to please others by disowning her own gifts. She no longer looks for external insurance. She steps into her responsibility to lead with grace. She no longer doubts her life-support— the universe. She knows that she works for the universe and the universe works for her. The old world moves apart to make space for a new paradigm. That’s the purpose of a woman. That’s her power— within.