Don’t worry about detaching yourself from things. Don’t worry about liberating yourself. The more you try, the more you’ll feel attached. All that is fruitless. There is a faster way and it works.
Get honest with yourself. Earnestly commit yourself to your honesty. As you get honest, you will learn, you will understand. Understanding will do whatever needs to be done, because when you know better you do better. If your understanding is at level 1, you cannot expect level 10 results.
It’s not about age or formal education either. Understanding depends on only understanding. There are a lot of educated elites who are completely idiots. There are a lot of illiterates who are wise sages.
Knowledge of self will teach you not only about yourself but every other person. Your heart will teach you about other’s hearts. Most importantly, self study will raise you emotionally and vibrationally. Whatever your parenting left behind you can raise.
You won’t need to depend on someone else. Your security will be within you. Where it should be. It won’t change according to your social, financial, or marital status. You will be a steady human being.
That’s real self-confidence. It’s not dependent on how others see you. It’s not even dependent on how you see yourself. It’s not dependent on anything that can change. It is regardless of anything. It’s unwavering because it’s independent of all, even the self.
If you rush your healing, you’ll definitely miss the point. Give it more importance than what “you and other people” will think of you, and you’ll waste less time repeating the same lessons.
When I was around 14 years of age, my destiny came to me. It was inscribed on a bookmark, tucked inside a book, wrapped as my birthday gift, and shipped from India all the way to Canada by a childhood friend. It read,
“Your only obligation in any lifetime is to be true to yourself.” By Richard Bach
I can still go back to the moment when I read those words in my dimly lit bedroom. I felt like I had fallen into a deep slumber for some years and this was an alarm waking me up. Something about those words felt so familiar, as if I had shipped them to myself in another lifetime.
After this, everyday, I started asking myself if I was being truly honest with myself. Every time I got lost, this one quote helped me find my way. It helped me grow in ways no other question could. And, because of this quote, I started collecting other quotes that rang true to me, like clues leading me back to myself.
So, it is because of this quote, I gained a once in a lifetime opportunity to meet someone like no other, the self.
Did you know that earth’s population reached 1 billion in 200,000 years? That was in 1804. After that, within 200 years it reached 7 billion. Today, it is approximately 7.6 billion. Most of this population is running towards the basic things: money, success, respect, love, marriage, and kids. That’s more than 7 billion people running towards the same things. Regardless of who achieves more or less, we are all racing towards the only one possible outcome– a black hole of death, never to be seen again.
Soooo, one day, I stopped. I stopped running. I stopped walking with the crowd. I watched everyone pass me by. I thought that if 7 billion people are doing the same task, why not divert one of the earthlings to explore life from a different angle? After all, regardless of how high I climbed the success ladder, I’d meet the same outcome as everyone else. What did I have to lose?
Opting out of this race wasn’t easy. I had to constantly remind myself that I was no longer a competitor. So, what made sense for others was not going to make sense for me. My opinions on any subject were never the popular ones. I had to accept being the awkward kid in the corner at every party. I wasn’t bored, because I was at the center of a million conversations, all in my head.
This simple diversion from the path well-trodden made my outlook on life very different. On so many occasions I wished I could be like everyone else. But just like you can’t erase things once you’ve seen them, it was too late. I just had to stop comparing myself to anyone and keep walking in the opposite direction, albeit looking like a fool. Terrified, excited, and alone, I started working on my first self-assignment– undoing myself.